When is an apology not an apology? When the first clause of the first sentence is a brief mention of what the instigator did, phrased in the mildest possible terms, and the rest of the statement is about how wronged she was and how horrible the reaction she elicited was.
(This is the official answer, although I’ll also accept “when the person offering it thinks that apologies are transactional.”)
So that’s a friendship down the tubes, it seems. Maybe she’ll come around and give an honest apology, but I doubt it. Her pride is too dug in, and she values it more than me it seems.
EDIT: Oh, hey. This was my 100th post. And on such a high note, too!